Wednesday, October 3, 2007
Beauty
Don't believe what anyone tells you about yourself: Sophie Loren said, "Beauty is how you feel inside, and it reflects in your eyes. It is not something physical." This is what makes you gorgeous, because now you arrive complete. And that makes others say, "Gee, I wonder, what is that special magic she's got?"
Tuesday, October 2, 2007
Anal Sex - Ladies Wake Up
Anal sex is a practice that typically causes conflict between husbands and wives, is thought of as what the Bible condemns as sodomy (although many believe that sodomy is a reference to homosexual anal sex only), and tends to be initiated and desired by men whose interest got sparked by pornography. Many sexual experts and medical personnel discourage anal sex because of the danger of transmission of infection and tearing of the blood vessels in the rectum.
The penis and the vagina are clean passages, which are free of disease producing microorganisms. The anus/rectum, on the other hand, is a highly contaminated passageway. When the penis enters the rectum, the urinary and reproductive tracks of the man are invaded with the germs from the rectum of the woman. If the man enters the woman's vagina after having entered her rectum, her reproductive passageways are then contaminated. Both can incur chronic infections like prostititus, vaginitis or a pelvic inflammatory condition. But you might ask, what if we use a condom? The fact is condoms have a significant failure rate when used to prevent pregnancy, yet sperm are much larger than the microorganisms that infect. In addition, a woman can only be impregnated several days per month, but men and women can acquire an infection at any moment of the month. So condoms are not a sure protection against being infected especially when entering the tight muscle of the rectum.
The muscular structure of the anus is different than that of the vagina. The vaginal passageway is controlled by muscles, that expand or tighten to fit any size penis; the vagina is an organ of accommodation. The vagina can tighten so tight as to not allow anything to enter and can expand to allow the birth of an infant. The rectum cannot. That is why the blood vessels in the rectum break when the penis enters it causing damage to the anal/rectal area and raising the possibility of transfer of disease producing microorganisms.
Spiritually, we would interpret anal sex as not fulfilling the New Testament expectation of mutuality. According to I Corinthians 7 and other passages, husbands and wives are to equally give themselves to each other and to delight in each other's bodies, but never is that to be one-sided or to violate or do something against the other or to be demanded. The husband is to love his wife as Christ loved the church (Ephesians 5), which required him to give up his rights like Christ did (Philipians 2) and give himself to his wife and love her exactly as she is. The women we talk to (in person, via e-mail, or through surveys at seminars) are hesitant or feel violated by their husbands' pursuit of anal intercourse. Even in marriages where the men say their wives enjoy it, the women will tell us on the side that they do not.
Our personal/professional/spiritual stance on anal sex based on what we know today is that we would not recommend it. We will continue to study this issue and seek clear Biblical and physiological understanding.
The penis and the vagina are clean passages, which are free of disease producing microorganisms. The anus/rectum, on the other hand, is a highly contaminated passageway. When the penis enters the rectum, the urinary and reproductive tracks of the man are invaded with the germs from the rectum of the woman. If the man enters the woman's vagina after having entered her rectum, her reproductive passageways are then contaminated. Both can incur chronic infections like prostititus, vaginitis or a pelvic inflammatory condition. But you might ask, what if we use a condom? The fact is condoms have a significant failure rate when used to prevent pregnancy, yet sperm are much larger than the microorganisms that infect. In addition, a woman can only be impregnated several days per month, but men and women can acquire an infection at any moment of the month. So condoms are not a sure protection against being infected especially when entering the tight muscle of the rectum.
The muscular structure of the anus is different than that of the vagina. The vaginal passageway is controlled by muscles, that expand or tighten to fit any size penis; the vagina is an organ of accommodation. The vagina can tighten so tight as to not allow anything to enter and can expand to allow the birth of an infant. The rectum cannot. That is why the blood vessels in the rectum break when the penis enters it causing damage to the anal/rectal area and raising the possibility of transfer of disease producing microorganisms.
Spiritually, we would interpret anal sex as not fulfilling the New Testament expectation of mutuality. According to I Corinthians 7 and other passages, husbands and wives are to equally give themselves to each other and to delight in each other's bodies, but never is that to be one-sided or to violate or do something against the other or to be demanded. The husband is to love his wife as Christ loved the church (Ephesians 5), which required him to give up his rights like Christ did (Philipians 2) and give himself to his wife and love her exactly as she is. The women we talk to (in person, via e-mail, or through surveys at seminars) are hesitant or feel violated by their husbands' pursuit of anal intercourse. Even in marriages where the men say their wives enjoy it, the women will tell us on the side that they do not.
Our personal/professional/spiritual stance on anal sex based on what we know today is that we would not recommend it. We will continue to study this issue and seek clear Biblical and physiological understanding.
Cheating Men
Why do men lie? There are many reasons. The lie because it’s in their blood, because they think that the truth will hurt, because they don’t think it’s necessary to tell the whole thing with the details, because they want to seem better than they are, because they want to make women love them, because they are sure it’ll be better for everybody and so on. After all “why does he lie” – is not a question of that big importance. But a woman should become worried if a man starts to tell the truth. This usually means that something’s going wrong. A woman should find out the reasons for that sudden sincerity to know what to do.
When we love we are used not to see the flows of our partner or not to show that we see them. If fact those flows mean very little when there’s love in the relationships. But when it’s gone all those unpleasant details in the character, appearance or behavior start to annoy us tremendously especially because they have become so obvious after a long period of not noticing them. That’s when men start pointing on the defaults of their women in the most rude and unpleasant way. If a man doesn’t love a woman anymore he doesn’t care whether his words hurt, if he doesn’t like something he speaks about it as it is just because he can’t any reasons to stay silent or to lie about it anymore. For any woman it’s better to leave because any relationships are supposed to bring care and attention but not permanent criticism and discomfort. You may of course stay, swallow your pride, watch your self-confidence fading away, feel yourself miserable and etc. But ask yourself is that really what you want?
But of course a woman isn’t meant to quit any relationships after a couple of critical notices in her address. The reasons why her man speaks the unpleasant truth can be different. Maybe he’s simply fed up with one of her very annoying habits. He loves her and he tried not to pay attention to that feature or habit, but he’s a human being and his patience isn’t eternal. So if he burst out once that doesn’t mean that will repeat over and over again. Probably he’s already apologized a million times and said that he never wanted to hurt her. Well in this case a woman should start looking closer at herself if she doesn’t want that explosion if truth to repeat.
Neither relationships are possible without compromises. And can love make us better if we don’t want to collaborate with it?
Sometimes he seems to love and to care but also he keeps telling those unpleasant things again and again. A man may compare his girlfriend with other women and every other woman is always better than his one. He may criticize her even in public. Probably he even like it. That all means only one thing – a man doesn’t respect that woman, because when we respect someone we respect even his or her week points. And still sometimes we love the people we don’t respect. So it’s up to a woman to decide whether it’s OK for her always to play a role of such a poor-thing which is loved but treated as nothing. She may try to talk to her man, explain to him that it hurts her to hear all that truth and that usually people show love in a little different way. Maybe she should do something to gain his respect of cause it these relationships mean much for her.
Sometimes a man tells the truth about himself from the very start to show how independent and indifferent he is, to let a woman know that he doesn’t care much not about her, not about any other woman, probably not about anyone but himself at all. Do you really want someone who’s claiming he will never need you? If you love such an independent guy you of cause may try to change his mind by conceiving him that you are the one of kind but see that there’s not much respect and mutual understanding in such relationships from the beginning.
Another kind of man loving truth so very much is only a provocateur in fact. He talks much about his past, about the incredible women he had, about his sexual fantasies the main hero of which is not his girlfriend. Also he compare her with all the women around and it always turn out by he’s words that she’s almost nothing compared with her. A girl should understand that he’s only trying to tease her and to watch her reaction. She may stay imperturbable and careless about all these talk or even ask him: “If they are so good than what are you still doing here?”. And we’ll work. But at the same time she should ask herself the same question.
One more case when a man tells the truth is when he doesn’t know what to do with that truth. For example, he’s cheater on his girlfriend and told her about it because he’s too weak-willed to decide what to do. He wants his girl to think about it instead of himself.
We all were taught that it’s wrong to lie. So the truth is good, but not always. Sometimes it’s better not to say or hear a thing. Everyone is free to decide how much truth in his or her life one is able to bare.
When we love we are used not to see the flows of our partner or not to show that we see them. If fact those flows mean very little when there’s love in the relationships. But when it’s gone all those unpleasant details in the character, appearance or behavior start to annoy us tremendously especially because they have become so obvious after a long period of not noticing them. That’s when men start pointing on the defaults of their women in the most rude and unpleasant way. If a man doesn’t love a woman anymore he doesn’t care whether his words hurt, if he doesn’t like something he speaks about it as it is just because he can’t any reasons to stay silent or to lie about it anymore. For any woman it’s better to leave because any relationships are supposed to bring care and attention but not permanent criticism and discomfort. You may of course stay, swallow your pride, watch your self-confidence fading away, feel yourself miserable and etc. But ask yourself is that really what you want?
But of course a woman isn’t meant to quit any relationships after a couple of critical notices in her address. The reasons why her man speaks the unpleasant truth can be different. Maybe he’s simply fed up with one of her very annoying habits. He loves her and he tried not to pay attention to that feature or habit, but he’s a human being and his patience isn’t eternal. So if he burst out once that doesn’t mean that will repeat over and over again. Probably he’s already apologized a million times and said that he never wanted to hurt her. Well in this case a woman should start looking closer at herself if she doesn’t want that explosion if truth to repeat.
Neither relationships are possible without compromises. And can love make us better if we don’t want to collaborate with it?
Sometimes he seems to love and to care but also he keeps telling those unpleasant things again and again. A man may compare his girlfriend with other women and every other woman is always better than his one. He may criticize her even in public. Probably he even like it. That all means only one thing – a man doesn’t respect that woman, because when we respect someone we respect even his or her week points. And still sometimes we love the people we don’t respect. So it’s up to a woman to decide whether it’s OK for her always to play a role of such a poor-thing which is loved but treated as nothing. She may try to talk to her man, explain to him that it hurts her to hear all that truth and that usually people show love in a little different way. Maybe she should do something to gain his respect of cause it these relationships mean much for her.
Sometimes a man tells the truth about himself from the very start to show how independent and indifferent he is, to let a woman know that he doesn’t care much not about her, not about any other woman, probably not about anyone but himself at all. Do you really want someone who’s claiming he will never need you? If you love such an independent guy you of cause may try to change his mind by conceiving him that you are the one of kind but see that there’s not much respect and mutual understanding in such relationships from the beginning.
Another kind of man loving truth so very much is only a provocateur in fact. He talks much about his past, about the incredible women he had, about his sexual fantasies the main hero of which is not his girlfriend. Also he compare her with all the women around and it always turn out by he’s words that she’s almost nothing compared with her. A girl should understand that he’s only trying to tease her and to watch her reaction. She may stay imperturbable and careless about all these talk or even ask him: “If they are so good than what are you still doing here?”. And we’ll work. But at the same time she should ask herself the same question.
One more case when a man tells the truth is when he doesn’t know what to do with that truth. For example, he’s cheater on his girlfriend and told her about it because he’s too weak-willed to decide what to do. He wants his girl to think about it instead of himself.
We all were taught that it’s wrong to lie. So the truth is good, but not always. Sometimes it’s better not to say or hear a thing. Everyone is free to decide how much truth in his or her life one is able to bare.
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